Illusion can be defined as something that deceives or misleads intellectually. At times we tend to see only what we want to see, whether it be in ourselves, others, our jobs, or our social circles. I can say with complete conviction I have taken a long hard look in the mirror a few times and I did not know who I was looking at. I have seen someone I was so disgusted by in that mirror and I have also seen a beautiful boss bitch ready to conquer the world. It is unsettling and unbeknownst to us this is simply our brains misinterpreting and misleading us of what is actually real. When it comes to illusions, we can be experiencing sensory stimulus, but it is simply an interpretation that contradicts objective reality. A good example of this is in relationships, we often seen those vibrant red flags waving right in front of our eyes, and we choose to look the other way. We then create in our minds a version of what we want to see or who we want them to be. Personally, I can say that I am guilty of this and I have definitely danced on the fine line between illusion and delusion when talking about relationships. To be clear illusions are perceptual and delusions are belief disturbances. I hope to think that most of us are just born with a good heart and understand love and empathy. That was my first mistake, creating an illusion that others could love the way I love, love me the way I deserved to be loved, and be empathetic to my feelings as well as others. You can say it was hope and assumptions. We all know what happens we start assuming things.
In my life I have done this in past relationships. I would start by making excuses, see more red flags, ignore them (insert self-hatred right about here), then magically my perception of said person would be grandiose, when in reality they were the absolute worst in every single way you could think of. Now, in reality-ville I see very clearly that my self-worth was not present, there was zero self-love, making it impossible to even love someone else, and I was creating a version of what I truly wanted that person to be even though that was completely impossible. This is what I mean by the fine line of illusion and delusion. I created something that wasn’t real because I could not accept the fact that this person was so far from checking any of the boxes that I now place the upmost importance on, and I actually believed that they could turn a new leaf or simply not be a complete piece of shit. I am not just talking about intimate relationships either, this goes for friends, family, co-workers, whoever. I am here to tell you this is just a small piece of the self-love jigsaw puzzle, because when the day comes that you do have that moment of enlightenment any of this crazy nonsense literally becomes irrelevant to your life. When you start vibing so high, leading with love and positivity, affirming you are absolutely amazing every single day, and can look in the mirror and say you are beautiful and I love you and actually whole heartedly mean it, that is when you begin to mirror power and confidence. The wild thing about exuding power and confidence is it attracts more power and confidence. The old life you once knew of dating or befriending liars, manipulators, cheaters, abusers, straight losers is over. That type of person wants someone who is weak-minded, has zero self-worth, and quite simply someone that is easy to take advantage of. In all actuality, those people are the mirrors of no self-worth, self-love, ambition, empathy, self awareness, I could go on forever. Moral of the story: love yourself so much and walk with such positive power that there is no chance on God’s green earth that one of those nefarious humans could ever come near you again.
courageously choosing you 