Tag: reflection

Stepping Stones: Learning from Past Relationships

Past relationships serve as invaluable teachers, imbedding lessons that shape our understanding of love, resilience, and self-discovery. Each encounter, whether it be fleeting or enduring, leaves a mark on our journey towards emotional growth and fulfillment. Although, the aftermath of a breakup may seem daunting, it also presents an opportunity for profound introspection, revival, and renewal. There are many feelings and emotions to navigate during these turbulent times. However, it is within these moments of vulnerability that our resilience truly shines. Moving on from past relationship requires a steadfast commitment to self-care, compassion, and emotional healing. In these times we must honor our feelings without succumbing to despair and acknowledge and embrace the pain, while focusing on the possibility of renewal. When it comes to healing, this is a deeply personal part of the journey that will unfold as its own pace. This is the time we must confront our fears and embrace the transformative power of resilience. Surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family can provide solace and perspective during times of emotional imbalance. Engaging in activities that nourish the soul like creative expression, exercise, or mindful practices will foster a sense of empowerment.

Every relationship, regardless of its outcome, offers valuable insights into our desires, boundaries, and emotional needs. Reflecting on past experiences allows us to discern patterns, identify areas for personal growth, and cultivate greater self-awareness. It is safe to say that a failed relationship can teach us the importance of communication, trust, and the value of vulnerability. I believe it can also reveal the significance of self-love and the necessity of nurturing our own well-being. Creating a sense of gratitude for the lessons learned is an essential part of the process. Instead of viewing the past as a failure, reframe it as stepping stones towards greater emotional maturity and self-discovery. Every encounter or experience contributes to the shaping of our future relationships and our lives in general. Once you are armed with your newfound wisdom and prepared to move forward, you can embrace the complexity of human connections. This is the time to honor all of the lessons collectively and look onward to a promising future. As you stand on the threshold of new beginnings, do so with strength, grace, and an unwavering commitment to the journey of the heart.

From Your Valentine

Love is the divine vitality that everywhere produces and restores life. 

Thanks to both Christian and ancient Roman tradition we celebrate this day of love in honor of St. Valentine. There are a few legends that surround this holiday that are perhaps a little too grim and gory to dive into. The one thing that each legend has in common is all three saints were martyred. Point being even in A.D. 270, people were throwing themselves on the sword in the name of love. It is alleged that prior to his death, Valentine wrote a letter to a girl he had fallen for and signed it “From your Valentine,” an expression that is used to this very day.

Present day, this glorified holiday is a time to express one’s feelings and exchange tokens of affection. Whether you are in a relationship or flying solo these days you should take the time to celebrate. In a matter of fact, you should celebrate the love you have for yourself and others everyday. I recently read something that resonated so highly, it was about looking back on your life and realizing the moments when you have truly lived, were the moments you had done things in the spirit of love. It is so true, when your heart is in the right place and you are leading with love, life is just seamless. Today can also be a time to reflect internally. If you are one that scowls at the thought of this day or love in general, maybe it is time to focus your energy on the people and things you surround yourself with. Ask yourself this one simple question. Is what you are doing benefiting you mentally, emotionally, and physically? If you hesitated for even a second, it is time to clean house. As hard as it may be to cut ties with people or things that do not serve you, trust me when I say it is always worth it. Life is way too short and precious to waste time, and time my friends is the one thing that we can never get back. Each waking second is a chance to start over, and see that you are amazing and deserve everything this world has to offer. Making your needs a priority is your first step. This requires you to really take a step back and ask yourself what makes you happy and truly brings you peace. Sometimes, we find ourselves in a place where we are unsure of what actually makes us happy because of the heartache or grief we have experienced. It is also common to become comfortable and complacent with the bare minimum when it comes to relationships with others as well as ourselves. In my opinion, that is the most dangerous place to be. My advice is jump out of your comfort zone, be spontaneous, and focus solely on yourself for a bit. You will find your way back, and by then all of the things you once thought were important will simply be a memory or a reminder of a place you never want to visit again. Start practicing self-care daily. Go for walk, soak up the sunshine, eat a healthy meal, spend time with those that inspire you. Whatever it is you choose to do, just start doing the things you love more often.